I came across my Goodbye/Eulogy for my Aunt. I talked about her passing in a previous post Life and Death and seeing as Tuesday was her birthday (she would have been 57) and I was thinking about her, I thought I would share it. Our beloved Donna passed away 1yr, 3months and 11days ago.
I will always remember Donna smiling, when I picture her,
that is what I see. She’s dancing,
smiling and laughing.
I am so grateful for the memories I have:I loved to hear Mum and Donna recall family holidays and other random memories; it was so funny to me because it’d be a lovely trip down memory lane until they each remembered a significant moment very differently and they would start squabbling about it and end in a huff of frustration. There would be silence for a moment and then they’d look at each other and end up laughing.
I loved to hear her laugh; it was so infectious somewhere
between a cackle and a chuckle and always ended with a sigh (almost an instant
reflection of what had made her laugh).
Donna lived around Charters Towers and Mt Isa when I was
little and I only saw her maybe twice a year at Nanna’s. When she moved back to Brisbane I was about
17yrs old and Mum was excited to have her sister back so near, we would see her
regularly, when I got my drivers license I would visit often and we grew close and became good friends.I’ll always remember that you could talk for hours with Donna and never run out of things to say I always enjoyed our talks and now realise just how important the many late night conversations we had around the dinner table were. She was a walking encyclopaedia and I learned something new every time.
I remember sharing her first holiday with her with her new
caravan at Kingscliff and how proud and excited she was. It was like she had
the world at her feet.
Mum and I often spoke fondly of Donna, Mum always said she
would give you the shirt off her back if you needed it and she was
extremely generous and supportive, there was nothing she wouldn’t give or do to
help out, and if she couldn’t do it, she’d find someone who could. She would
always fight for her family and for what was right, no matter what it cost her.
I called Donna sometimes just to talk and catch up but
always to share my big news and she would share my excitement, She was always
present at family get togethers and important events/milestones in our lives, I
always looked forward to seeing her because to me, she was always the life of
the party and it will be very difficult not to have her around, her presence
will be missed.
Let’s remember Donna for her Love and friendship. For her
laughter and her funny sarcastic sense of humour , for her generosity and for
her spirit.
Donna was my Aunty and she was an awesome Aunty but also a
great friend one of my best friends and she will be missed, we will all miss
her.
I still cry for her, I still long for her. Sometimes i get really angry about it. But mostly i just feel that void She's left in my life. I've lost my confidant, My Mother has too. This relationship can never be replaced so that pain of loss will always be there.
But, I have learnt from this.
Appreciate what you have.
Don't hold a grudge, people make mistakes
Apologize, Admit you were wrong, again, people make mistakes
Have patience while people try to navigate their way through their stuff, sometimes its just really hard going.
True Friends ARE just as important as family.
Fight for your friendships when times get tough. Don't just walk away. If they matter to you, fight to be heard.
Sometimes nothing can be said, when you don't have the answers all you can do is listen. That's the most important thing you can do. Be there.
Love them and tell them you love them (family and friends).
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