Music for the soul

Music is definitely a big part of my life. Much like my children it simply lights my soul. When i was a teenager to a young Adult writing songs helped me work my way through the big issues i was facing in my life at the time. So much raw emotion to work through. I'm not sure i would've made it out the other side without it. What can't music do? Make you happy & sad, make you laugh and cry. Help put into words the inexplicable feelings we all sometimes have,  and create memories that will always stay with you. Music is always there to keep you company.

Since i met (or started dating) my husband my tastes have been extremely widened, he has a mountain of CDs. Other than the chart releases i had never heard Nirvana for example. Most of it is pretty good. I spent much of my misguided youth listening to, dare I say it? Boy Bands.....*CRINGE*. So i've come a loooong way. I grew up with such daggy music, i didn't have a chance and popular music was the biggest form of rebellion in our house.
You should see our CD tower now. It is massive and we still have piles everywhere. I think we need to get rid of them but there are so many memories there. Lets be honest. CDs are a thing of the past.

 I am glad to see my love for music has definitely been passsed down to my children. Seeing Sean's head (4) nodding along, to "appropriate" songs of nirvana and a little AC/DC (compliments of the Iron Man movie). I think, he is already way ahead of the game. He has a little guitar just like Daddy's that he likes to get out and strum on like a rock star. I can't wait to get him some lessons.

Our twins, particularly Summer love to groove to music. Its funny watching a 15month old dance. She just stands there and bounces at varying speeds, Lily just smiles her massive smile and claps and laughs along. I wonder how music will influence their lives. How it will help them.

What have you noticed, that your children have got from you?

School Holiday

I am really looking forward to these school holidays. I love having my kids beside me. They are good kids and i enjoy being with them, I'm just used to it i guess. I'm sure by the end of the second week i will be the first person waiting at the front door of my Son's kindy ready and eager to hand him back in for the 6hr break, as we all know, 4yr olds have well developed their own minds.
With next year hanging over my head, i guess i'm anxious to spend as much time with him, doing as much fun and education things as possible. 
I'm busy researching low cost/free activities for us to enjoy together. I have a few ideas. Might head to the dinosaur exhibit this week and I always wanted to take him to the planetarium or the science centre, he loves learning about space and perhaps a steam train ride.....perhaps. As a 4yr old boy he loves all things, Superhero, dinosaurs and trains. I have also mapped out a few parks i might visit with him. What are your plans for these School Holidays.
Check out this website if you're stuck for ideas. Its great.
http://www.brisbanekids.com.au/

Choosing a School??

Choosing Schools Sucks!!!!! Up until this point, it has always been easy choosing where my Son will go. I have always had good guidance. But what do you do when the guidance takes you somewhere you can't possibly afford?? We can't afford most of the private schools especially when we will have two more there in three years. Most private schools around the area come in at $5k per year in the beginning and go up to $16k by the end and that's just NOW! I've also been informed that those prices rise by 5% each year.
The public schools in our area just simply SUCK! I have been on forum after forum researching and discussing in person with every parent i have ever met in the area since my Son was born 4yrs ago. One school is full of violence, neglectful disciplinary issues, over populated and completely mismanaged and the other i've heard only one bad report about a teacher calling the kids nasty names and no one has taken any action against her....yes, HER! Also it just makes me uneasy, it always has. It's so exposed and so danky looking...how do i go against my gut instinct when its all i have to protect my Son?
We are totally and completely without religion so that doesn't help us make any decisions. I do think its important to learn about religion but which one? And do i want it shoved down my Son's throat before school, before lunch and at home time? I honest feel like i'm going insane. I want to bury my head in the sand...but i can't,

Its all about him. Its all for him

What if they ruin him?

Don't worry, I know i am sounding Crazy right now. I AM on information overload.

Am I over thinking things? How do you choose a school that is right for you?

Sentimental Attachments

Isn't it funny?..The sentimental attachments we develop for our possessions. For me, in this particular case, it was my Nanna's dining table setting. My Mother recently told me that Nanna bought this table second hand when she was young, sanded it back and did it up.....hmm, must run in the family then. I didn't know that little tid-bit originally. My mother and her siblings grew up around this table and then me, my brother and cousins also grew up around it. I remember crawling under it and playing through the weirdly angled legs when i was really little while all my Aunties and Uncles congregated above. My Poppa would sit at "The Head" of the table, as was the custom and My Nanna would sit on the side and I would always try to score the seat between them, to enjoy Nanna's Cooking. We all know Nanna's cooking. It is the best. I remember my cousin used to tell her, "Nanna, you make the best tinned spaghetti." and he'd get this silly grin on his face. It sounded so nuts, we'd all laugh but she had that little extra touch that made everything taste better. She really was a great Nanna. When i scored that wicked position between Nanna and Poppa, i remember Poppa would always distract me, he would tap me on the shoulder, "Look, Whats that over there?" he would say and point across the house. When i would look, he would pinch all my yummy baked potatoes. It would take me a few seconds but when i clued on, i would look at him and he would be silently laughing just waiting for me to click on......Its just such a fond memory. Cheekiness is definitely a strong family trait and it comes from BOTH sides of my family so I never had a chance.
Anyway. Sometime after my Grandparents had passed, I, thanks to my mother was lucky enough to gain possession of this table. We were just starting out and really needed a dining setting. All the memories came flooding back and i was so sentimental about it, it was surreal that it was in my house.
A few years has passed and the sentimental novelty had worn off, a few chairs have gone and the ones that remain are not being used anymore because they are so uncomfortable. The angle from the chair to the seat was 90deg and they were rock hard. We decided we needed a bigger table and decided to sell it. We bought a new, much bigger table and suddenly had a huge storage problem, I checked with my family and it was good to go. so I put it up for sale. SOLD! Ok, finally we will get some space back i thought. The guy comes to pick it up and as he loads it into his car, I lost it. It crept up on me, i wasn't even thinking about it. But it just crept into my thoughts as i watched him tying it down, "that was my table, I grew up around that. My mum did too", and i just cry.
Look i'm not some insane whack job honest. Let me make this clear, i wasn't on my hands and knees begging the guy not to take my table... Screaming out "Whhhhyyyy, Why did i do this!!!??" It was a silent trickle of a few tears that just crept up on me, i said goodbye to the guy and went into the backyard. My husband came out, having heard little sniffles and asked me what was wrong. I just looked at him and laughed. It was a touch embarrassing i'll admit. He just realised on his own and gave me this look like OMG (you know like when you're caught crying in a movie). He reached out a pulled me over and said, "Come 'ere you little shkip" and gave me a hug and rubbed my back...Yep i know, I'm a sook. Right Here. That's ME.
I still have little reminders of my Nanna here. The Rocking chair in the twins room, we use to calm them at night, some costume jewellery, all my pots and pans, i call them "Nanna's Pots" and i think about her every time i pull one out to use and thats almost every day. I like it that way.
Now we have OUR table, one we chose, we can fit 8 comfortably, 10 at a squeeze. Now we've started making our own memories around it. We had our first sleep overs on the weekend and woke up to a house full of people. We made chocolate chip pancakes for all the kids. It was lovely to have a full house in the morning.
But once again, isn't it funny, The sentimental attachments we develop for our possessions?

The Little Things

Lately, i've become all too aware of how much we, in our house, rely on the television for entertainment. In the last 10years, i have become a total lounge lizard. I'm pretty sure i've said in a previous post. I HATE MY COUCH. Maybe its because its not the right couch for me, we bought it for looks at the time and didn't really think about the comfort of it. Maybe its because we (my couch and I) have become too close and our relationship has soured. My family and I are starting to really enjoy the outdoors again. Starting to come out of our little cocoon and socialise. I am so lucky where I live. I have a lovely quiet street with great neighbours that we get along with and sometimes hang out at the end of the day, we help each other wear our kids out for dinner and bedtime. The girls have finally become big enough for a helmet which pretends to protect them in their little bike trailer. Seriously? Baby helmets need a.......re-model.

We I have become completely addicted to riding. I am beginning to ride everywhere. Now we have borrowed our neighbours bike trailer and are just about to buy our own. Sean is big enough to ride his bike by himself (with us) all the way down to the lake or up to the shops where we live. I'm finding our relationships are improving since we've started taking time AWAY from the television. Conversation has reappeared, patience for the little ones and interaction is growing too. The girls are starting to really interact with Sean and he is so happy about that. We had so much fun on our first ride, we rode up to the shops for Hubby's paper, then down to the lake for a coffee and for Seany to have a play. Then on the way home, we stopped at the park for a little break and a bit of a reward for Seany's huge ride. The kids had a blast...So did Daddy and of course it makes my heart flutter when everyone is happy.

It means we are doing our job right. Right?

The truth about Twins

Since the Twins were born, people have said to me, "I don't know how you do it." Or "I couldn't do that" and when they notice i had a 3yr old (at the time, now 4yr old) they looked like their eyes might pop out of their heads. "Gaw, he must be a handful too, how does he cope with the Twins?" I felt a little angry and insulted they would judge my little man so harshly, defence mechanism i guess. At first i was always replying, with a smile "Its fine, its not hard at all, the twins are so easy all they want is each other and they are completely content and my Son just adores them and helps me out heaps" Well,  whilst it was true, we all know it takes a little more than that, a clean nappy, a full tummy and some little distractions always help out. BUT I always knew it wouldn't always be so easy. So my reply slowly changed to, "No, its fine, they are all great, its not hard at all......Yet, I know the hard times are coming"

Here They Come!!

Sean has turned 4 and is now at Kindy. The attitude, the tantrums, the ownership of.....everything. Well, enough said.

Summer and Lily are 13months and both walking now. Very exciting times but i am hesitant in my excitement...I know whats coming....This afternoon I walk into the quiet loungeroom and this is what i found.

THIS IS MY ANGEL, LILY

Summer was asleep, thankfully otherwise she would have been standing in the draw giving Lily a shove to make room for her, i think.

WE HAVE CLIMBERS PEOPLE....TWO OF THEM! CLEVER ONES! I am in for it now.

Our yard is pretty big, so all of our stuff is nicely spread out. We have our patio and then in the corner of the yard we have a timber fort with a swing, in the middle a plastic baby playground with steps and a slide, then and a huge trampoline. My parents very kindly donated their old pool lounges to us which we've set up under the patio on the pavers (My husband believes I can SIT on them to WATCH the children play) P-F-T Yes i hear all you Mothers out there laugh hysterically and scoffing at my husband in disbelief...He comes up with some great ones. Now. My actual plan with this time is to wear the KIDS out so i get a nice quiet evening to myself once dinner and bathtime is done.

 A few weeks ago, we were enjoying our outside time in the afternoon.  I was chasing Summer and she was crawling away from me like lightening, laughing her little head off, she found her little pusher and started walking around the yard. Lily was playing with the water table, which is under th patio and Sean was climbing his fort. I had a moment of calm and my attention wandered off with my thoughts, then i came back. I was walking across the yard and I looked around to find that Lily had climbed up onto one of the pool lounges and was happily and wobbly walking the length of it and Summer was making her way up the steps of the baby playground halfway across the yard. My brain just switched into panic mode OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD, how did this happen?! S**T I need to be split in 2. Who do i go for first??!

Imagining, Lily falling off head first onto the pavers (which she actually looked like she was about to do) and at the same time, Summer falling from a higher height head first onto the grass. OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD ARGH! Then I hear Sean, "Mummy, come push me, Mummy! Mummmmmmyyyyyyy!".

"Errr, Um, I can't right now Seany" I said looking from Summer to Lily. Trying to Sum up which one to go for first.

"But....Mummyyyyy, Why???? I want you to push meeeeeeee." you know that really annoying whining but somehow demanding voice they put on.

Then i shift from panick to NINJA STEALTH MODE. WHAAAA, I ran over and scooped Lily up by her belly in my right arm and I kept running to get to Summer just in time to scoop her up as she takes her first tumbling step down the slide. I took a few steps away from the playground and placed them both on their bums and keep walking to Sean to push him on the swing...PHEW. How did that happen so fast. That situation changed in like seconds. I looked back at the girls sitting on the grass happily babbling to each other...A wave of relief washed over me. That wasn't so bad...right.
So. If this is the beginning.........help?

The only certainty in life......

This morning a very close friend of the family, lost his battle with cancer. Its been a long haul for him and his loved ones. Only a few months ago he was cleared of all the cancer and given a clean bill of health. Then it quietly and ferociously return, spreading all throughout his lungs and stomach, no fighting it this time. In the end, he drifted off peacefully and painfully. Surrounded by his Brother and Wife, listening to his favourite songs. He actually passed away earlier this week but his wife got into his bed to say her goodbyes and he came back! She got 4 more days, the power of love hey?
I remember him out boating mostly, laughing heaps and having heaps of fun, i looked after his younger boys alot, i adored them. I remember him quite literally throwing me around the dancefloor at tipplers and boat haven. I remember him taking me for a burl on his motorbike, late one afternoon, he went so fast and we had no protective gear on, i squeezed him so tight while i screamed my head off right into his ear. It was SO MUCH FUN.

I am so thankful we reconnected with him for my father's 60th a few years ago, we had a few years apart and we had always missed him. He was an awesome guy to be around. I will remember him as the loving, funny, generous and very fun man we all grew to know and love. I will cherish the memories always. I only hope our relationship with his family continues. All his Son's just mirror him, in every way, they are great people to know also.